Our Ceremony


Let’s see…you know that we’ll have a rabbi and Methodist minister co-officiating our wedding ceremony, but we really haven’t talked much about the specifics of the ceremony, have we?

When we met with Rabbi Marc and his wife a few months ago, one of the things he offered to do, as part of his services, was to write a personalized ceremony for us, incorporating the various elements from both traditions that we’d previously discussed. What we ended up with was an inclusive ceremony that we hope will not make anyone uncomfortable, and should be unlike any ceremony that any of our guests have ever seen.

Some of the things we’ve included in the ceremony are: the 7 Jewish Wedding Blessings, the lighting of a unity candle, a reading from Corinthians 1:13 (I think, that’s right), Kiddush, and the smashing of a wine glass at the end. When we sign the marriage license for the state, we will also be signing an interfaith Ketubah. Also, instead of my parents walking me down the aisle, as is customary in a Jewish wedding, my two children will walk me down the aisle.

We feel really good about what we came up with, along with Rabbi Marc, and are eagerly awaiting the big day! If anyone is interested in the ceremony in greater detail, please leave a comment with a way to contact you.

4 thoughts on “Our Ceremony”

  • How great that your ceremony was so perfect for both of you. I am currently planning an interfaith wedding as well, and I really like the idea of blending the traditions of each religion into the ceremony…and then explaining each one so that everyone can understand the meaning. I’d love to hear more details about the wedding. Thanks for sharing!

  • Bryan and Julie-
    I am very interested in creating a ceremony with co-officiants that is blended and respects both my family’s and my fiance’s traditions. (I was raised in the enagelical Christian church and now attend Prespyterian services but am not a member and he is Jewish (including 10 years of Hebrew/Jewish school!) but does not practice currently. I have been very scared about the ceremony and have found this issue very painful to deal with. I would be interested in more detail about the ceremony and how you decided on the elements and found officiants willing to do a blended ceremony. (I have never heard of an interfaith ketubah and am excited about that!
    Ultimately, I want the ceremony and wedding to be explicitly inclusive. Your wedding sounds lovely – thank you for sharing.

  • Your ceremony sounds very similar to what we came up with for our own. The combination of the traditions felt very natural, and the ceremony felt like one unified tradition. One thing we also did was make sure that each tradition was explained as it was performed, and that it was explained in a way that was open and accessible to everyone. For example, the breaking of the glass has so many interpretations. One you hear a lot is that it symbolizes the destruction of the temple. We thought that was a rather odd explanation, especially for the non-Jewish folks. Our rabbi came up with an explanation that made more sense for everyone: that it is a symbol of commitment, of doing something that cannot undone.

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