Let us introduce ourselves!


It dawned on me this afternoon as I was finally able to log into the blog as an author for the first time that most of you will probably know nothing about us.  Yes.  I know.  You have read our articles here before, and you have spent many a bored workday looking at our Facebook profiles, but you haven’t formally met us.

Well.  Nice to meet you.

I’ll just start by saying that it is an honor for Lula and me to be able to share our thoughts and feelings about our impending nuptials with the interfaithfamily, family.

So Lula was brought up in a family that didn’t stick strictly to a single faith.  Her Japanese mother was influenced as a child by Christian missionaries.  Her Trinidadian/French Father was brought us in a southern Baptist family in Texas.  What a world!  When they started their family during the Vietnam War, I don’t think that they put too much thought into religiosity.  What that left were children who celebrated Christmas and had maybe had an Easter ham or two.

I was born and raised as a Jew from a Jewish family.  Too much food.  I still have the belly to prove it.  We were brought up in the conservative movement where I have pretty much stayed.  I work for the Jewish Publication Society here in Philadelphia and couldn’t love it more.  I wouldn’t call my self observant, but Lula might.  I feel like I learn more about Judaism each day and each time I learn more, I relate better.

We have a son, Raiden who is also Jewish just like his pop.  Rai is almost 10 months old and will be 16 months when we tie the knot on June 7th 2009 here in Philadelphia.

I think that we will have much to say.  I feel like this wedding is a process that comes along inch by inch every day.

We look forward to chronicling the journey here.

See you soon!


4 thoughts on “Let us introduce ourselves!”

  • Alx,
    Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. And Raiden is unbelievably gorgeous! What an adorable lovey little baby. I’m glad you’re enjoying fatherhood! Thanks for sharing!

  • Let me start with commenting on the picture: A fine-looking member of the rubber-pants community!

    I’ve been finding many more couples seeking to contract an interfaith marriage, whose backgrounds are much more diverse than in the past, much like what you describe above.

    I’m finding this to be the case especially with couples from Latin America, where there is a movement afoot to encourage Hispanic families to rediscover their Jewish roots, long hidden under a Roman Catholic veneer. Known as the Anusim, these families are the descendents of Jews who were forced to convert to Catholicism several centuries before.

    I know several such people from the Dominican Republic, who grew up Catholic, but have now officially returned to Judaism, after having first contracted what they thought was an intermarriage.

    They always wondered, as had their parents before them, about certain unusual customs each family had performed for generations, such as closing the drapes in the house and lighting up candlesticks on Friday evenings which had been set in the fireplace. Or odd practices of using strangely worded “cattle calls” to greet people outside of church (it turns out that the first letter of each word in the cattle call spelled a traditional Hebrew greeting, such as “shabbat shalom”).

    In my own rabbinical practice, I don’t force anyone to convert to Judaism prior to marriage. Invariably, the nominal conversions performed by other rabbis to satisfy community or familial expectations just lead to much unhappiness and disatisfaction. If someone wants to convert, it’s really up to G-d and the individual. My job is really only to light the way.

    In many of the above Latin American cases, the non-Jewish party strangely was already on their way towards Judaism, having felt that something was missing in their personal spiritual journey. Marriage to a Jew is often just a step in that journey towards spiritual fulfillment. Very often, it is a self-directed, self-motivated non-Jew in an interfaith marriage, that during the process of considering Judaism, of becoming a “Jew-by-Choice,” that leads the entire family towards a more Jewishly-observant context.

  • Great to meet you- and your little one is too cute! I’m rather new to the entire site, but I can tell this is definitely where I need to be. My fiance and I are planning an interfaith wedding for next year, so I can’t wait to hear your insights!

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